• Angela D. Holmes

How To Kick-Start Your Healing After Divorce Or A Bad Break Up!



Are you dealing with a bad breakup or divorce? If so, I know for sure you can relate. There was a time that these thoughts bombarded my mind while I was going through my divorce and post-divorce, it was as if all hell had broken loose and I was losing every part of my mind. My heart was shattered, and I could not find all the pieces to put it back together. Don't let anyone tell you; it's not that bad because it is.

A bad breakup, abuse, and divorce are tragic events. Listen! Emotional stress from relationships is an open door for Satan. Too often we listen to the whispers of the devil over the soothing liberating voice of God. See the enemy wants to torment your mind and leave you with a damaged mindset. He wants to lead you into depression, cause you to lose hope, lay down your faith and buy into his lies. The total opposite of what God tells us to do when we experience hard trials.

• In the Bible, God says in Isaiah 61:3 "the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness" Satan says don't praise God if He loved you this would not have happened to you."

• In the Bible, God says in Jeremiah 29:11 " For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, they are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Satan says "hope for what? There is no future for you".

Can you see Satan's strategy? We have to educate ourselves on our enemy to know his tactics and foolish tricks so that we don't get bitter and lost. The Bible says in Hosea 4:6 "my people perish for lack of knowledge." I've come to the conclusion that we are experts by choice or coercion to stuff our emotions into a back closet or virtual dark hole. Forget about it and convince ourselves that we are healed. We must admit, face, and overcome every emotional disturbance that comes our way. In essence, you must play the hand you are dealt, play it well, and play to win!

Check your emotions and be honest with yourself. Are you so low that your knuckles are dragging the ground? Are you an emotional wreck? Are you ready to give up? Have you decided that you don’t have what it takes to make it through one more day? Another hour? Another minute?

Well, guess what? It's not permanent! In fact, this is a prime opportunity to grow in love like none before. Yes, learn to move forward when the blessing, yes blessing of betrayal comes your way! Adversity is an agitate for building your character. God will perfect that which concerns us while knowing this, our participation in the course of this becoming is critical. You can GROW through this, and not get stuck in it. Prayer and meditation on His word should be your guide. Go to God about you, not your offender. This healing cannot be done on the surface. God has to get to the root of your damaged emotions. The transformation of your mind is critical to your healing. You will heal, what you feel right now is temporary. Sooooo get ready to laugh again!

Here are 3 simple things you can choose to do to kick start your healing.


  1. Focus forward, this will create meaningful, transformative emotional growth. Recognize the past is past.

  2. Accept that feeling rejected is temporary, acknowledge your pain and place it in right perspective so you can move forward.

  3. Remember that your marriage ended NOT your life. So now is the time to get help on this healing journey.

Affirmations to strengthen you

  • My emotions are healed; this process is sealing my victory. (Isaiah 53:5)

  • I WIN, I will not let hurt, pain, divorce, physical or mental abuse, molestation, incest, and rejection overtake me, but I will break the powers of darkness that will try to keep me emotionally bound. (Matt 16:19, John 15:26, Isaiah 61:3, Luke 10:13)

  • God has given me the power to conquer the mental attacks of the enemy. (James 4:7, Luke 10:13)

This breakup was not meant to destroy you, but to promote you. Here is my quote that I live by daily; "What we think about the most is what is driving us, what we yield to the most is what is controlling us" Remember, your relationship or marriage ended, NOT your life!

©2017 Angela D. Holmes

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